tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5823563450330519132.post2694629135477044089..comments2023-04-06T05:15:40.664-04:00Comments on MY BIG ITCH: More Shit To Confuse You Guys! More Shit To Confuse Me!MY BIG ITCHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15373845194542633080noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5823563450330519132.post-9572745771349330562010-05-22T02:33:03.796-04:002010-05-22T02:33:03.796-04:00Crap I wrote a comment before which didnt post. so...Crap I wrote a comment before which didnt post. so I'll summarize. It's not wierd ..... he's not ready for an adult relationship. He wants sex with other guys. He is unable/unwilling to be empathetic to your feelings about his having Oliver over. Even if he thought your feelings were unjustified, if he valued you the way he should, he'd have told Oliver, "I'm sorry but you can't stay here, because the man I love thinks something might happen." My brother's wife said she is uncomfortable with his friendship with a woman from work..... even if nothing is going on.... so to keep his wife happy, he avoids the co-worker. In committed relationships, you make sacrifices for your partner. Jess needs some therapy and unless he gets it, I think his behavior will repeat. He's just not ready for you. xoxo JoelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5823563450330519132.post-78979461380740436692010-05-18T21:20:40.251-04:002010-05-18T21:20:40.251-04:00Hey guys, thanks, I really do appreciate the feedb...Hey guys, thanks, I really do appreciate the feedback comments and I totally know that if I wasn't me and I was reading my blog, I would give that person the same great advice that you guys have given to me. Yes, obviously I love Jess and part of me (a big part) thinks that Jess has some serious issues and yes, down deep inside he knows he loves me and perhaps eventually if he can get his shit together one day we can be together in a healthy relationship. But do I just walk away from him now? I'm confused and not sure that I can or want to do that. I know, I know, I'm a mess, right!MY BIG ITCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373845194542633080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5823563450330519132.post-35917317008535945552010-05-18T19:57:43.373-04:002010-05-18T19:57:43.373-04:00Russ, absolutely great advice!! I have tried to h...Russ, absolutely great advice!! I have tried to help out with posts but you said it all!!drewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11802343109885478260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5823563450330519132.post-9510518349637849222010-05-18T16:45:58.493-04:002010-05-18T16:45:58.493-04:00Bless you Steve. There's no point anyone givi...Bless you Steve. There's no point anyone giving you a single word of advice because you are not able to hear it, or even if you heard it you wouldn't follow it.<br /><br />I know because I was in the same place once many years ago. And I was a crazy man not just for weeks or months but for years afterwards. And it was all absolutely needless and pointless: an utter waste of time and spirit.<br /><br />When you get tired of hurting yourself, you'll wake up and move on, and not a moment before. And then be gobsmacked that you were ever so uncomprehending about the facts of life. Nobody else can make you see that right now, I well know from my own experience. You have to come to see it on your own.<br /><br />Pain exists for a reason: to teach you not to hurt yourself when you can't figure it out on your own. When the pot burns your hand, drop it. Good luck buddy.Russ Manleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05722260145543178087noreply@blogger.com